Why and how to start journaling?

I am setting up a journal for a first time. Where do I start?

Despite the fact journaling often being connected to children years while we are in school, it gain a lot of popularity over the past couple of decades in between adults. In fact ones of the most successful people were using journaling and kept few of them throughput the life. The most memorable names would be Steve Jobs from modern era or Leonardo Da Vinci from the past.

Journaling started though much earlier than that and its first traces are as early as 554AD in China. Very first diaries of retrospective nature were written by ladies of the royal Japanese court in the 10th century.

Journaling is a widely used therapeutic method in therapy, where clients are advised to journal as a self-reflective journey, as a healing tool for spiralling mind as a gainer of clarity and more.

What are the benefits of Journaling?

Human mind is a very complex to navigate and mostly we are unaware of its work. Our brain picks up on many cues throughout the day, mostly unconsciously to our benefit and help us function in everyday life throughout often automatic behaviours.

Maybe you noticed that a lot of ideas would come to you in the shower, or that your mind spirals in the mornings or you find yourself unable to sleep due to overactive mind.

Journaling can be of help here.

When we journal we are creating space in our minds. We are putting thoughts elsewhere and we don’t keep carrying them around. Due to multiple cues in a day and roles we need to fulfil our mind very easily fills up and keeping us away from present moment. When we leave the present or are mostly elsewhere in our minds we are as well slowly becoming less connected to our emotions, our bodies and often this might lead to unhappiness, depression and anxiety. It is a form of necessary self-protection specially if we experienced difficult experiences throughout the life or chronic stress. None of these are uncommon in nowadays disconnected society and maybe that is one of the reasons why journaling became popular over the past decades.

Saying above one of the main benefits of journaling would be SPACE and MENTAL CLARITY.

What are mental health benefits?

When we journal we are not only creating space in our minds, but we are as well processing events, experiences and ultimately our emotions. Journal can be often self-soothing tool or a tool how to access our emotions and become more aware. By putting thoughts down we become less judgmental or more aware of inner critique and so ultimately we experience less negative emotions.

According to PositivePsychology.com benefits of journalling are:

  • Reducing anxiety
  • Breaking away from a nonstop cycle of obsessive thinking and brooding
  • Improving the awareness and perception of events
  • Regulating emotions
  • Encouraging awareness
  • Boosting physical health

Writing about stressful and traumatic events can significantly benefit our physical and emotional health.

In fact, studies show that time spent journaling about our deepest thoughts and feelings can even reduce the number of sick days we take off work (Sohal, Singh, Dhillon & Gill, 2022).

Research suggests that journaling can help us accept rather than judge our mental experiences, resulting in fewer negative emotions in response to stressors (Ford, Lam, John, & Mauss, 2018; Baikie & Wilhelm, 2005).

How do you start?

If you’ve never journaled before it can feel quite intimidating sitting in front of a blank page.

There are various ways to approach this:

  1. You can google some journaling prompts for every day journaling or you can find prompts and focus on some theme in your life – relationships, friendships, self-esteem, divorce, loss etc.
  2. Morning pages – basically start writing whatever comes to mind in the mornings and until you didn’t fill 2-3 pages you won’t stop. No judgment over content, grammar, how pretty it looks. You are just taking thoughts as messy they are down on the paper.
  3. Start with highlight of a day every day – just one sentence or one sentence what you are grateful for
  4. Follow one of the methods of people who journaled before you – there is lot of ideas on youtube by ordinary people as you, there are journaling ideas from successful people like Leonardo Da Vinci and others which could serve as an inspiration to find out what kind of journaling suits best for you.

These are possible first steps how to approach journaling. As more you write as more you start connecting dots and clarity will emerge together with possible emotions. Journaling is in this sense amazing tool, because journal won’t judge you for your thoughts and emotions, you can pour them out as they come, name them, connect them to people, places, events and through this process slowly let go.

Setting up a journal for a first time and every time after that can be part of a self-care ritual. You buy a notepad which speaks to you, you research how to incorporate journaling to your life and you make it part of morning or evening routine or you keep journal with you at all times. If you are creative and visual person you might want to incorporate drawings, if you are analytical you might want to be able measure either your habits, sleep patterns etc.

I will end here for today, but throughout this month theme of JOURNALING will possibly appear in few more articles in relation to how to journal.

Winter Blues – What is Seasonal Depression and is it unnatural state?

It has been past few years since I am aware how my body and mind changes every winter. Autumn is an amazing season full of colours, but it always reminds me of what is coming next. Dark cold winter when my whole body wants hibernate, slow down and do as little as possible. I used to beat myself up for such feelings, thinking that somehow my body is malfunctioning and something must be wrong with me if I experience low moods and lack of motivation, heaviness in my body as winter moths approach. I used to push myself and I still do at times as our society is certainly not accommodating these changes.

As time passed as more I have seen every year what is happening with me, I have started to understand that these feelings I have are quite common across society specially within more sensitive individuals and they are not unnatural to have although are considered to be part of depression. They have a name and in fact might be much more natural to human kind than we might think.

As someone who experiences and quite likely suffers from seasonal depression or correctly called Seasonal Affective Disorder and is slowly creeping in this time of the year, I thought there is no better moment to bring on the table this term, debunk some misconceptions in relation to it and help us understand our changing moods a little bit better.

What is Seasonal Depression

According to NHS in UK: ‘Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that comes and goes in a seasonal pattern.

SAD is sometimes known as “winter depression” because the symptoms are usually more apparent and more severe during the winter. Some people with SAD may have symptoms during the summer and feel better during the winter. Symptoms of SAD can include:

  • a persistent low mood
  • a loss of pleasure or interest in normal everyday activities
  • irritability
  • feelings of despair, guilt and worthlessness
  • feeling lethargic (lacking in energy) and sleepy during the day
  • sleeping for longer than normal and finding it hard to get up in the morning
  • craving carbohydrates and gaining weight
  • difficulty concentrating
  • decreased sex drive

For some people, these symptoms can be severe and have a significant impact on their day-to-day activities,’ in which case you should talk to your GP or therapist.

As we can see winter blues are defined as a form of depression, which affects people in relation to changing seasons. Interesting part here and something I am quite curios about is if this is somewhat more prone for people living in northern countries. I mostly came across with such feeling here in Scotland due to the fact there is bigger extreme in between summer and winter when comes to light access and so vitamin D.

Mersch et al. (1999) have reviewed the relationship between SAD and latitude of residence. Patients with climatic conditions affective disorder have episodes of major depression that tend to recur in cold weather. This conclusion is an indicator that maybe population of colder countries experience such more often and even maybe I have developed such here due to the cold and dark environment. In fact the whys here are not as important. Important is the awareness of the condition and how can we help it.

Is seasonal depression quite a natural state?

Before we get there I would like to talk a little bit more about the fact that this is form of depression and such realisation might be a little bit difficult for some people to hear. Depression has a lot of negative popularity and many people are scared to be associated with such serious negative term. Yet there is high possibility we all experienced some depressive period if not more than one throughout our lives knowingly or unknowingly. The label again is not as important, but recognition of such feelings might be.

You might be asking why do we need to be aware, isn’t it better if we don’t and just get on with it?

What get on with it really means?

I would be assuming it means we find ways how to function despite having such feeling, we would want to help ourselves with means possible and available to live fulfilling life. In fact many of us do that, but awareness of it is the link inbetween pure surviving without addressing the issue and actually living.

Can we get on with cancer if we don’t know it is spreading inside of us, how can we treat it if we do not even know it exists. With physical health it gets easier we can see broken leg, spots on the skin or feel strong pain in different parts of our bodies, but with mental health the symptoms might be often more subtle and less if even visible. Without awareness of depression we might feel in relation to changing seasons, we are denying the fact something is happening within us what in fact might be more natural than we might think.

Where it comes from?

This is pure speculation and I did not find actual research which would back this theory – in fact it is not even possible, because we don’t have this kind of health information from our ancestors, but I wander if our bodies are in fact build to experience seasonal depression as an ancestral inheritance.

We have no means to study if our ancestors in experienced mental health issues, but we recognise slow forming of rituals when comes to celebrating death, social aspect of creating community and times of more intense and less intense work of hunting and gathering. One could easily speculate if they were just more connected with their bodies and so if tired they would sleep, if hungry they would eat, if sad they would honour their death or stick with others or likely find solitude of sorts. We don’t know these things, but what we know is if we are not in connection with our bodies and we push our bodies against natural rhythm which our technological and industrial era demands of us, we are finding ourselves feeling more low and with mental health issues.

If we’d look at our ancestors of past 12 000 years, who became farmers and settled, I wander if seasonal depression might be something natural to happen. They would often work hard, outdoors within communities in summer, whereas their body would naturally slow down and they’d take more rest in winters, being more inside with less people. We can only speculate if our bodies are responding to a natural occurrence in mostly cold months, something what human kind have always experienced or if even depression related to seasons is a form of illness in modern world, maybe because we are less connected to our bodies than ever before.

Is SAD really depression?

As we learnt earlier SAD is classed to be a form of depression due to its symptoms. We could agree if symptoms are the measure it certainly sounds like depression. What if we go a bit farther into more complex interconnected and take as the measure environment and natural responses of body to such environment. It has been proved that depressive episodes are mostly present in colder weather conditions.

One could think if our bodies are in fact accustomed to outdoor warmer or more light conditions if we move indoors during dark and cold periods our bodies naturally slow down getting ready to more hibernation period which in fact all our ancestors seam to experience. So if we are looking at SAD from this angle, is it really a depression or is it even a disorder or is it just a natural response of our bodies to the environment and ancestral way of functioning.

Hunters and gatherers maybe used to be more in connection with their bodies and farmers maybe slowed down in winter months. Suddenly in past few centuries we’ve started demanding same amount of work all year long, we’ve stopped listening to our bodies and what once was natural to do in connection to nature and our bodies became a disorder because it is not profitable to have slowing down and hibernating individuals in the society half of the year.  

How can we deal with SAD?

If the symptoms become severe please talk to your GP, but if you more experience just winter blues, when your body is asking for more rest, more quiet, slowing down and feels a bit more low, maybe just listen and acknowledge it. Don’t try to push it away or beat yourself up that you are not keeping up with everything as you might be able to do in summer periods. It is likely quite natural rhythm of your body, which is just sensitive to changes in the environment and in the nature. Everyone is different and everyone will need something different, but listen what is your body is asking of you.

Is it more rest?

Is it more solitude and quietness?

Is it more balance or less workload?

Is it need for interactions?

Is it need for outdoors?

Is it need to move as you were sitting too much?

Whatever you find that will be likely correct answer. Keep an eye on disguised cravings and in fact unhealthy impulses, which might be telling in their own disguised way what you really need. But that would be a topic for another day.

Let me know if you experience winter blues, were diagnosed with Seasonal affective disorder and how you experience it? What is helping you?

What you feel matters

I was in my 20s when I first time recognized that emotion I feel the pit in the stomach is in fact anxiety. I thought we all have it and it is a normal state of bodily feelings, so I learn to push through the feeling my entire life, without acknowledging, addressing or naming what is happening. Until life circumstances made it to be all a bit too much. That was first time I went to therapy, which led later to my own therapeutic training and towards the career I am in now.

My own personal story is not important though.

The reason I am sharing this is that I did not know how important emotional awareness is. Sometimes we are very self-aware on cognitive level, but we are just not in touch with our own emotions, with our body. Many are just not thought to name and recognize their emotions from very early age.

The whole system our society was built on does not teach children emotional awareness. I correct myself it did not used to…things are changing…thank god. Although another topic would be how ‘emotional’ subjects are being slowly erased to make more space to logical ones, unfortunately.

Where it all started?

Given the complexities of emotions, Robert Plutchik psychologist, who developed the Emotion Wheel to assist people define and name their feelings. He is a founder of theory of emotion, when he first time classified general emotional responses. The awareness itself helps, but he went even farther and proposed that defense mechanisms were in fact manifestations of core emotions.

Nowadays…

Many are still shamed for feeling negative emotions throughout the life and this slowly but steadily builds up our belief system about ourselves and the world. We see the spike in people experiencing depression, anxiety and all sort of others mental health issues. Often those who claim they never experienced these are in fact just not in touch with their own bodies and emotions.

If we learn to listen to our own emotions, when we recognize how we feel in different moments, we might be able to make choices in life which will reflect our values and who we truly are. We might learn to set boundaries if we need to and we might feel less impact of stress in our everyday lives.

We become more authentic and other people can better relate to us, which leads to deeper relationships reflecting our own individual preferences.

I am curious..

Do you remember when you learn naming emotions, if ever?

There is a tool often used by therapists called ‘emotional wheel’ developed by already mentioned Robert Plutchik. I often hear from clients when seeing the wheel for a first time sense of amazement. They did not know there is so many emotions. I often reach for emotional wheel in my personal life as well. After all we all are human and in fact emotions make us so.

I believe that emotional awareness does not belong solely to a therapy room, where people often find themselves when in crises. Recognizing emotions, naming them and being able to address them and communicating them in healthy way, should be a part of our culture, every day life, workplace, in our relationships. It might help us to become a whole human, who might find themselves in crises in different stages of their life, but would be as well more equipped to handle them.

I am including this basic tool here, but can be found anywhere on internet.

In the middle of the wheel you can find basic emotions. The second tire shows a bit deeper emotions behind the basic ones, which language we use sometimes for and the third tire shows even deeper emotions we don’t often recognize they exist or that they are related to the basic ones.

What Masquerade mask revels about you (2. part)

Here comes second part about Masquerade masks. Read this article only if you have done your mask already or you are not interested in the meaning of completed mask.

In this article I am going to mark some main symbols and what to look for once your mask is finished to understand what your subconscious is trying to tell you. Before that I need to tell you one important thing…

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What masquerade mask revels about you? (part 1.)

Looking back I think I was going through some rough times. No aspiration at work, environment felt very hateful, emotionally dried and tired. Does it sound familiar to you?  My world was falling apart and only bright light was craft workshop I was going to on Saturday.

Mindful crafts.

Ideas I could use in my youth work. Workshop ´mindful crafts for children´ happened to be therapeutic session for myself.

First crafty idea was masquerade mask. I remember that day I came home relaxed and fulfilled. I did finally something meaningful for myself.

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When use this craft making?

You can use this therapeutic craft whenever you want and feel. It is great way how to relax and cope once you feel anxious. It can help you to stop overthinking and just be present in the moment. It is great when you feel no motivation, sadness because again it takes your focus to something creative and away from your thought process.

It makes you present.

You can use it as tool to better understand yourself because the way you create your mask will let you uncover a little bit more about yourself. This step is not necessary though because process of making the mask is much more important.

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